THE STEPHEN GOWER BLOG
The Eight “Ms” of Motivation
“How are you motivated?” “I am self-motivated.” “That is the only type of motivation there is.”
Our conversation touched upon a key issue: you cannot motivate another person. The motivation button is located inside you. In regards to other people, you can create a motivating environment where another makes the choice to act. The choice to act is theirs.
Concepts listed below address this issue and other motivational concepts:
Modify the definition
The motivation that equals “sitting around waiting for happy endings” and the motivation that equals “sitting around waiting for a motivator” are illusions. For most of us, the definition of motivation mandates a second look: “If I act, it is because I choose to act.”
Move in reverse
Often the progression in the military prospective equals “Attention, About Face, Forward, March.” On many occasions, before there can be a “Forward March,” there must be an “About Face.”
Manufacture and hold thoughts
Your mind is a mold and holds the vessel. Think about the thoughts you think. Do not believe everything you think. Do not merely remove negative thoughts, replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts and hold your positive thoughts.
Mold habits with focus
Focus will falter if it travels with hurtful habits. A focus will flourish if supported with helpful habits. The effectiveness of your focus informed by the habits you hold.
Manage the detours
Your motivation will not develop in a straight-line fashion. Detours will invade the line. As you travel by detour, as interruptions, distractions, and disappointments interfere with your plans, you must manage your detours: anticipate, accept, analyze, apply, and appreciate what you learn.
Massage the motivational environment
“Service” is a verb. As you seek to motivate yourself, and as you seek to create a motivational environment for others, you must focus on servicing journeys. You cannot give what you do not have, so you must service your own journey. You cannot motivate others, but you can service their journeys as you create a motivational environment.
Monitor your progress
Monitoring is not an “at the end-point” event. Monitoring is a process that does not wait for destination-arrival but occurs throughout the journey. Now monitoring your progress, in the very midst of your journey, allows you to both apply helpful alignments and celebrate incremental “finish-ed-ness”.
Master your motivation
In order to approach a full command of your motivation, you will find the 4 C’s helpful: clarity of purpose, commitment at point of head and heart, consistency of effort, and cycle as reality.
ABOUT STEPHEN GOWER
Stephen is the best-selling author of 26 books, including What Do They See When They See You Coming? He has also written countless articles for a variety of publications and has produced multiple audio books and video programs. Stephen has appeared on PBS Television and XM Sirius Satellite Radio. He continues to hold one of the highest invite-back ratios in the speaking profession.